In the very near future, I want to share with you, my dear readers more about me and my life. One thing that I can tell you that I am in love and married to an awesome woman. She is truly my best friend.
Although I feel very confident in giving marital advice, I will ALWAYS take a seat to those who have been happily married much longer than I.
Here is a great story that I came across that deals with the basic question: “Is marriage 50/50?”
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“The young lady standing in front of me at the ATM machine was shifting nervously from one foot to the other. She was obviously waiting for her male companion to finish his transaction.
While I’m waiting, I attempt to make light hearted conversation by telling her …”Surely you’re not cashing a check, let him pay your way…that’s what dating is all about…” She looks back at me and smiles with a look in her eyes of age way beyond her years.
She tells me…”It’s sad to say, but it doesn’t work that way anymore, today it’s a fifty-fifty world we live in” and with that she and the guy hop in their car and drive off. I give her a wave and she smiles and waves back, lost in thought.
My wife and I are on our way out of town to an anniversary party given in honor of some friends of ours who have been married for forty years. During the drive I begin to think about the differences our society has gone through in those forty years from then until now.” (more…)
The 50/50 is the reason for the more than 50% failure rate.
Marriage is 100-100. Your’e giving all of yourselves not just a little bit here and there. I’m a youngster (26) and this is how I have viewed it for sometime and its this notion that won’t let me settle for anything less in my potential mate. I think you have to maintain your individuality in marrriage. I recently had a lady and I paid for all the dates we went on because I was more financially responsible meaning I planned for the dates economically anticipating how much it would cost before hand. I still like some of the old school values like the man being man enough to pay for the dates without thinking hes “tricking” his money off. The pimp mentality has slowed our mental progress in some cases we don’t value our women the way we should. I try to treat women with the utmost respect but if she volunteers to pay every once in a while or when she asks me out I’m all for that too.
I hate when older people just look down on this generation as if all of us crave the same things. I want that life partner I just refuse to settle for a situation thats going to be filled with more anger filled or sad moments than us just being focused and making the best of it. I know it won’t be all roses but it ain’t ’sposed to be all rain. The last young lady gave me a vision of the thoroughness I would like in a partner but I realize the part I played and its like you can’t look for the person to complete you, you have to be complete beforehand . Also the love for yourself has to be eternal before you can love eternally. We all have flaws but I think the good marriages work because you can stand that persons bad side as well as the good. So when I go into a relationship I try my best to let that person just be who she is and thats when you see the truth of who they are and thats when you start to decide if this is what you want your life to be like with this person. I think you can’t tell that after a few months but after a year or so you start to see each others true colors and with my last relationship I decided I wasn’t ready for a true committment to that woman. I place a lot of value on trying to find the right mate but is that the only way ?